Thursday, January 29, 2015

Birthday wish...

My birthday snuck up on me! Actually, don't tell anyone, but my recent anniversary got forgotten in the middle of our house of sick horrors. I guess both of these make me old.

So what do I want for my birthday? I'm so glad you asked!!

Five years ago I made a deal with my husband...I told him I wouldn't need another birthday present ever, if he would agree to adopt Theo. He did. We did. And I'm so glad! It is probably the best good thing we will ever do in our lives.

But, it did open this can of worms. We will never be the same after the experience. The kids we left behind are never far from our thoughts. Many of them will never have the chance to experience the love and care of a family. Some have a chance, though. The odds are long, but a chance.

Baby Dmitry
I started advocating for Dmitry in 2011. His head was shockingly large, even at eight months old. He needed out quickly. He needed medical care right away. Road block after road block was thrown up...missed opportunities and shady excuses. By 2013 I was sure that he had died.

About a year ago a dear friend asked me to help her find an adoptive home for this amazing boy. She sent me this photo. It was Dmitry!! Amazingly, he was still alive...and happy. He talked and laughed.

Dmitry is alive!

I used my contacts to try to get this boy some immediate medical attention. Between red tape, egos, and a war, this proved to be impossible. The only chance was to find a family to adopt him. 

Long and winding story short...for my birthday, I would like to show some love to the family that is now working like crazy to bring him home. And I would like to invite you to join me. Really. I'm giving for my birthday, not just asking. 

I know that a lot of you are struggling...we all are, and yet, we find ways to do things that are important to us. Seriously, send me a dollar bill and it will go to this boy. A five spot, even better. You could make an online donation and read a little bit about the family HERE

This adoption is moving fast and the family needs a few funds to move forward. There is an $850 matching grant set up for them. If we can raise this much by February 7th. You could be part of the best good thing to happen to Dmitry!

This is my birthday wish. Thank you!

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Week three...and counting...

We are in the thick of it. Our third week of sickness.

I'm convinced it started before Christmas...with countless parties and junk food. We were all feeling strong and healthy, then the holiday party scene started. Cookies, candies, orchestra parties, parties for this class and that class. Sugar out the wazoo! The kids get all sugared up then dumped at home for three weeks.

We fought valiantly...limiting sweets, diffusing oils, sinus rinsing, hand washing, you name it. A teenager went down first...formally diagnosed with influenza A. The poor kid had just started a tough semester with several honors classes. He missed a whole week and I was sure this would result in failing grades.

Poor Ralph got it the worst. He was fine one day and feverish the next. He's better now, but still looks run down. The house is wrecked, as I am still super tired. Ralph's glasses are lost. Theo and Max held out the longest...and now they are beginning to show signs of illness. Things are just looking very impossible right now.

I can't wait to feel better...I have much to share. And I can't wait to see these two kids smiling and healthy again!

Monday, December 8, 2014

Making writing a priority

Writing is difficult. Good writing is even harder. It's the most difficult part of our school day. Shhh...sometimes it gets skipped altogether.

Getting started seems to be the key. Setting aside time is not enough. Physical or mental tiredness prevents me from writing, even when I have the time to sit and think.

Today I have changed up our schedule to make writing a priority. The first 30 minutes of the school day will be devoted to writing. The kids are fresh, the day is new, and I am here to sit on them if I need to!

We used to work on math first. It's my highest priority for the kids and my favorite subject. I have to be the grownup though. We gotta take our medicine first thing and get that awful writing done.

I'm assigning 30 minutes of writing to myself as well. Let's see how this goes...

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

My God Groove.

I'm enjoying this advent season quite a bit! After a busy and stress filled summer and fall, I have found a groove where I can do my best and let God handle the rest. My God groove.

There is a local radio station that plays all Christmas music, all the time, during this season...but I can't handle hearing WHAM! and Mariah Carey over and over again. A quick search turned up CBN's streaming Christmas radio station. What a breath of fresh air! Really beautiful and meaningful Christmas music that I don't have to explain to my children. Ha!

One of the most stressful parts of my life involves managing the Project TLC caregiving program. I feel such a huge responsibility to the children. Meeting them and hearing the stories of how their lives are being changed had cemented my resolve to help them in every way possible. Every month, by the grace of God, we seem to scrape up the funds needed to continue.

God loves these kids...more and better than I do! How do I know when I have done enough for them? Can I give just a little more? Try a little harder? It's difficult to keep myself in check.

I'm finding peace and perspective in my Christmas music. Today I'm meditating on Oh, Holy Night. One verse proclaims:

Chains he shall break, for the slave is our brother.
And in his name all oppression shall cease. 

Get that? Jesus will free the captives...not only you and I, captives to sin but ALSO the locked up and abused children. In HIS name ALL oppression shall cease to exist!! This is such wonderful news!! Ponder it!!

No, Christmas hymns are not scripture, but they echo Isaiah 61:1.

"The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me,
    because the Lord has anointed me
    to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
    to proclaim freedom for the captives
    and release from darkness for the prisoners..."

Jesus is responsible, He's got a plan. We can't do anything on our own anyway. Let us get on His team, give our best and let him do the heavy lifting...get in a God groove today.

Friday, October 3, 2014


Well, it's October again! It's the BEST month of the year, in my opinion. I just LOVE crisp fall weather, the changing leaves and BIG pots of chili! If you have been here awhile, you might know that October is Down Syndrome awareness month. It's no accident that DS Awareness month happens during the BEST month of the year.

I am not going to even pretend that I will be able to complete the 31 For 21 blog challenge of blogging every single day this month. I've already missed day 1 and 2!! Who knows, though...maybe I'll surprise myself...

If you want to join the party, the 31 For 21 challenge is being hosted by Michelle at Big Blueberry Eyes. Head over there to sign up for the challenge or just to find some new blogs to read. 

Happy October!!

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Survived the summer

The days are suddenly comfortable. The nights are becoming crisp. We made it through the summer. We survived!!

I'm not sure where they came from, there are no bodies of water close-by, a little tribe of frogs has moved in to the flowerless flower bed in front of the house. We've had toads before, but frogs are entirely new. One must be cautious when walking from the driveway to the front door. Daredevil froggies hop from the grass, across the sidewalk and into the flowerbed to hide. Yes, I have stepped on one barefoot. Ick! I won't tell you about what happens when we mow.

Now that the children are back in school, I have more time to devote to household chores and to running Project TLC. One would think, right? One major challenge is that we have children that attend two different school districts with entirely different school calendars. Last week, for instance, one district had no school on Monday while the other district had no school on Friday. Since our home school district belongs to a special education co-op with seven other school districts, they can place our children in any of the seven districts and I have no say in the matter.

How are the kids?

Well, these two are just crazy about each other. They have SO much fun together. The level of total and complete acceptance between them takes my breath away. Oh, and Supergirl/Superman? Tomato/ To-mah-to.

We said farewell to Wes just a few weeks ago. He is on TREK, a mission and discipleship program for the next 10 months. He will be assigned to an international location soon, but we don't know where he is going yet! Yikes!

Guess what? Ralph can climb like a spider monkey. Fast and high! He recently needed to be rescued by some friends. He was actually on the very top of this structure, but mom was freaking out and standing under him, just in case, instead of taking photos!

Ruby is just a neat kid. She has a special "thing" with Max, too. Doesn't Max look great? He's learning and growing like a weed. He meets the bar when it's set high so we have to remember to keep pushing and encouraging him.

Oh goodness, our Chip has left for college! So far, he is loving it. But, the weather is getting colder and he doesn't have a car. He is riding his bike to work early in the morning and I worry about him.

Theo is just a nut. His newest obsession in the piano. He learned how to open it up and has spent a lot of time banging on it like crazy. However, this morning I noticed him playing with one finger, very carefully. Maybe he's tired of banging. Or maybe he got it all out of his system. Maybe he's just ready to make some music?

Zhen got new glasses!! We really like these Centrostyle frames. They stay on his face securely without a strap. Only problem is that he has already scratched his bifocal lens. Ugh. This boy.

Monday, July 14, 2014

A bright spot!

Lately I find myself wishing away the summer. It's too hot for the littles to play outside. Even if it weren't, it's too buggy, or they eat gravel and grass and rubber mulch. There is too much TV, too much laying around, too much crying, too much bickering. You might say that our days are full...of the wrong stuff. Why can't we have three months of vacation in the fall when the weather is tolerable?

I'm so thankful for the little bright spots in our otherwise boring and lazy summer. With twelve children, we can always find something to celebrate! Here is the bright spot for today...

I almost can't believe what I saw this morning. If you have followed us for awhile, you might know about Max and his struggles to eat and drink. WHY do children raised in institutional settings have feeding issues? This is SO basic. I believe it demonstrates that even basic care isn't basic enough. Anyhow...

Getting Max to drink has been the biggest challenge. Initially, he would only accept liquid from a spoon. And then he had developed a way of tipping his head back and swallowing without closing his mouth. Like a baby bird. Can you imagine how labor intensive that was?

I brought him juice boxes a few times while we were still just visiting. I'm not sure what they did to him there, but the mere sight of a straw provoked an anxiety attack. For the past year he has used a sippy cup without the stopper. It allowed him to stay hydrated, but also allowed him to dump out water and play in it. Great fun, eh?! 

A few months ago, I put the stopper into the cup to see how he would do. Sure enough, he figured out how to suck enough to get the water out! I would offer him a straw from time to time. I would let him SEE me using one. Sometimes I would just leave a straw on the table where he could see it.

Even though I knew Max was making slow progress, I was FLOORED today when his speech theraptist told me he drank from a straw today. She was shocked, too! He just DID it. He wasn't coaxed or convinced, He just took the cup and drank.

When Max came out to the waiting room, I got a demonstration...and photographic proof that it happened!!

We still have lots of work to do, and another four boring weeks of summer, but today we are celebrating Max, his determination, and his new skills. What are you celebrating today?